I can get a little driven in things I pursue (shocker I know). When I was in University and saw that I have made 95% on an exam my first thoughts were 'what the heck did I miss?'
So it's not surprising that I viewed my inability to get Carmen on track as a failure. But my rational brain knows that it was a learning experience. That is what I would tell myself.
So I've been thinking a lot about this and not sure how much sense I will make.
Because I don't think our test ride was about fear. The incident in the warm up was based on fear. For whatever reason, she found the walker with his dogs super unnerving. While I will concede that she was definitely wary about the open door in the ring she is not afraid of the ramp or that corner. We've ridden by it so many times and I can stand her there and she is totally relaxed. I honestly think that she spooks when she doesn't really want to work. If I get too reactive it escalates but I also can't have her bolt so it's a fine line and one that I don't always get right.
I have to be okay with not having it right all the time.
When I said that Carmen's 'nope' is dangerous, I wasn't really meaning in the ring. My biggest fear is that we will experience something like that when we're out.
I do recognize that she is far more rideable then ever and that sometimes regression will happen.
I do want to focus on the fact that I was able to address it and show her that this behaviour is not the answer.
I took Monday off. While I don't know that Carmen needed a day off I really did so I had a nice and lazy day visiting with family and puttering around. Monday night I set up a small course of obstacles in the ring to play with.
Backing through the L was interesting. I can back Carmen up with little difficulty but as soon as there are poles involved she gets really frazzled. And no, I don't think it's me- I honestly feel relaxed. I tried to break it down to step, halt, step halt but she began to fizz and spin. So I put her in a trot circle until she settled and then offered the halt. After about 10 minutes I was able to do the back 1 step, halt, repeat through one part of the L and I gave her a ton a pats. She looked at me as though to say 'is that it?'.
Honestly, I think she gets frazzled if she's not sure of the answer or if she thinks I'm going to get after her for not doing it. After we went for cool down hack in the woods and she was on a loose rein and relaxed.
|she stuck her face in the spray, note the tongue.|
Today Carmen was back to her old, calm self. I'm sure the heat and humidity helped with that but it was nice to ride a horse that met me half way. We played at schooling and then incorporating the obstacles. It was fun. We even cantered the cavellettis- twice! It was so cool to get into 2 point and let her go through. I could feel her adjusting her stride to make it work and she didn't even get frazzled or annoyed with me.
I decided we were done so we did the rope gate and stood on the bridge waiting for Julia. I felt Carmen begin to stamp her feet and was surprised because this is not like her. I looked down and saw a bunch of wasps coming up from under the bridge!
CRAP! I walked her off and she was all 'meh'. Which is surprising because I would view a bunch of angry wasps as a legitimate excuse to run away.
Someone explain my pony to me please.
We hacked off into the woods, again on a long rein and she was as mellow as could be.
|happy, relaxed ears|
I totally understand the spookiness as evasion. It is a thing. I have found that verbally letting Ashke know when his try is the correct thing (good boy)or when I'm not going to be distracted by his antics (using the words "stay with me please" when these moments happen helps me keep my focus on what I am doing) and riding as though he hasn't done anything bad has helped him figure out that I am serious.ReplyDelete
Riding through it in the arena (thankfully the judge let you school) is the only way to impress upon her that spookiness increases the work and does not work as an evasion.
Yes, this has been my approach at home - spookiness leads to work not a break.Delete
What a difference a day makes! I guess we all have to let go of perfection and embrace a little chaos, but it’s not easy.ReplyDelete
In my experience, horses act worse in the ring than on the trail. Even my farrier sugggested i would have been better off with Bee out in the wide world. But it is hard to trust in that.
Being able to vent allowed me the space to think. In the early days Carmen wasn't safe out of the ring either but now she's so much better.Delete
Day to day interactions with our horses is what makes life interesting. Of course, sometimes it's nicer to just have boring days!ReplyDelete
Here's to boring days!Delete
"I can get a little driven in things I pursue (shocker I know). When I was in University and saw that I have made 95% on an exam my first thoughts were 'what the heck did I miss?'"ReplyDelete
Man, that really resonated with me. I also have that type of personality and it can be so frustrating, especially in horse training. They keep us humble, that's for sure.
It's our strength and weakness- it keeps us working through the bad stuff but it can be overdone.Delete
I get so caught up on the bad things that happen that catch me off guard that it’s easy to forget how many more good things are happening all the time. Glad Carmen seems more back to herself!ReplyDelete
You are so right.Delete