This weekend Ed and I celebrated our 28th anniversary. We spent the day continuing to work on our new deck and then went out to dinner with friends. Looking back, it seems that we were just kids when we got married.
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| what can I say about the hair? It was the 80's after all. |
Ed was not a animal person, let alone a horse person. He admits that he waited for me to outgrow this passion for horses and then became confused when it only worsened with time. It was difficult to fit the horse in when the kids were young and there were lots of demands on our time. If you ask him when I told him that I was going to own a horse some day he will tell you that it was on our first date. So I take comfort that I never lied to him. I'm sure that it's been a comfort over the years for him to know that he walked into this life of his own free will.
Now he fully supports the horses. He has no interest in riding (although I think I would have gotten him on Steele) but enjoys the puttering around. I think if I had a nice steady QH (or other breed) he would ride but more as a hobby.
It can't be easy living with someone who has a passion, let alone a horse passion. I know that people have asked him why he didn't demand that I choose between horses and him. He always answers "Because I like being married". It's not that I would choose horses over Ed but how can you stay with someone who has no respect for your heart?
"of course" he said "I'm sure that you need a new saddle pad"
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| there are some lines though that cannot be crossed |
The father of my children made me choose -- and I learned over time that my happiness was unimportant to me; in that and other things. Part of loving someone is supporting their dreams.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more. But Brett seems like the perfect horse husband :)
DeleteHappy anniversary! Ed always sounds like a big supporter of the horse habit :)
ReplyDeleteOn my first date with my husband I took him to see my horses haha!
ha! that's funny! At least he knew what he was getting into!
DeleteHappy Anniversary! I love the wedding photo. The 80's were a fun time in fashion! I love how supportive the descriptions of Ed are in your blog. It is so important to respect each other's heart. Glad you married one of the good ones :)
ReplyDeleteMarried over 1/4 century myself, I know what an accomplishment it is to make it so long & to do so happily. My Better-Half became a horse lover & then a rider in support of my interests - I say very gratefully that he is also 'one of the good ones' in every way. Life can be so rich when your hearts are in step.
ReplyDeleteMany congratulations to you & Ed!
Congratulations! Truly loving someone means you accept them for who they are and what THEY love as well. My husband has learned to accept, and more often support, my horse lifestyle. It sure makes life more pleasant when they just go along with us (just kidding ... but not). :0)
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