|rider hauling on her horse and causing her to invert OR|
rider surviving a spin/leap/bolt and trying to get her horse back before someone
dies. You decide. Or rather don't.
I am also sometimes able to ride with tact and responsiveness.
But here's the thing- whether I am sucking or rocking it, I am always trying my best.
As I get older I get more and more irritated by people seeing a single moment/episode and making all sorts of snap judgements. They assume that they now know all that there is to know about that person and their horse. And of course they know what should be done.
We've all experienced it.
Remember my Trail Clinic back in August? I was so happy with that experience. Nikki (one of the clinicians) shared it on FB and that was then shared by someone else. Someone who added the following:
|name blocked out because it's not relevant|
The person who posted this appears to have leapt to all kinds of conclusions about my history with Carmen's training and is sitting in judgement. I thought about writing an explanation "actually I have done a lot with this mare and this clinic was another step on my journey to build our partnerhsip. In the end I didn't bother because I wasn't sure it would be a productive discussion. While part of me doesn't care, part of me is still rankled.
We need to stop it.
It's not fair. But worse, it's not helpful. It adds nothing to the discussion. In fact it stops any discussion dead. We don't know what a person has gone through to get where they are. Maybe doing what they are doing is a result of a ton of work, sweat and bravery. And it doesn't matter that it could be better. It's enough that it's not worse.
So this year I'm going to continue to work on being a cheerleader. I am going to assume that others are doing their best and that I don't know their story. I will not pass judgement and I will not give advice unless asked for. And even then, I will try to ask rather then tell.